The other day I was walking into Target & I saw a girl that I am friends with on FB, we each passed each other without saying a word or even a nod, and I thought to myself, why am I friends with someone in the social media world who I am not even comfortable enough to say "hello" to in person & visa versa. I find it such a strange phenomenon. We let people into our world, see so many details of each others lives, we call them "friends". When in all honesty, we are only FRIENDS with a hand full of our "friends". I had decided that I was over Facebook. I was tired of the phony friendship, irritated by the people who ask to me be "friend" them but then judge the way we do life, the people who find posts of my kids annoying... I was done wasting time writing posts, reading posts & spending my time on things that didn't matter.
Why was I scrolling Facebook instead of playing pirates with my own little one?
So I decided it was time to step away from the FB world & found it incredibly freeing, uplifting. I was completely out of the loop & loving it. Not long after signing off I started getting messages from friends telling me that they missed my posts, they loved seeing what we were learning, they actually missed what I had to contribute & how I had been encouraging them. I begin to think about family members who don't have Instagram & they were telling me how much they were missing seeing what we were doing. So I decided to cave.
I'm back...... dun dun dun! ;)
SO maybe we aren't FRIENDS
you don't know my deepest darkest secrets & maybe you are not the one I text at 11pm when I've watched one too many episodes of Grey's & think I now have a terminal disease, or when I have eaten one too many pieces of halloween candy and may need to borrow some spanks! We may never have had an actual face to face conversation, you may not understand that the million posts of my kids is not to show off or say look at me, but they are for Grandma's who miss them. You may think that my educational post are an attack of your educational choice, let me assure you they are not. I come from a family of teachers, public, private, homeschool... I have never met 2 kids the exact same, so believe me when I say do what is best for your child.
{And since we are on the topic & I am on a roll ---
not all homeschooled kids are the same either. Yes, I will be the first to assure you there are some bizarre homeschooled kids out there, but if you have ever walked through ANY school... there are some really bizarre kids everywhere you go! Yes, my kids bathe, brush their hair & gets fully dressed everyday, but somedays we sleep til 9 & we do school on our pj's , just because we can! We actually follow a schedule & curriculum. mind blowing, I know! And to answer you next question: yes, my children get TONS of social interaction, with people of all ages. My girls' social calendar would probably make you dizzy. Lastly, please don't quiz my kids (sigh!) There are those who feel the need to quiz my kids on what they are learning but yet have no idea what curriculum their own child is studying. Seems a bit hypocritical. So... if you feel so inclined to quiz my child, I will suddenly feel the need to quiz you on what your child's education & learning styles, so be ready ;) lol! Ok sorry about that little ramble. I know everyone means well but really folks homeschooling has come a LONG way, the most recent stat I read said 1.8 million students in the US are homeschooled. So if you haven't met a "normal" homeschooler maybe YOU should get out more ;) LOL. } Enough of my rant. oh if you don't know me well enough to know, please insert loads of sarcasm in the previous paragraph ;)}
If you are still reading & my crazy unusual lifestyle inspires you to find what you are passionate about, if I can share with you something fun to do with you child, if I can be an example of a mom who actually likes spending time with her kids, if you think I may be slightly insane but you are intrigued, if you are new to your homeschool journey & you need to know you are not alone, if you want to talk curriculum, learning styles, & parenting techniques, than by golly I am here! I by no means think I have all the answers or that my way is the only way. Being a mom is hard, working full time is hard, being a wife is hard, being a teacher is hard & when you put all those things on the shoulders of one person there are days when you will question your decisions & abilities. If any of this sounds like you, then please "friend" me!
2 comments:
Thank you! I love your posts and we aren’t “friends”
Yes to everything from fb to homeschooling!! I love seeing what you are up to and all of the pics of your family!
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